I hate it when I feel insecure. I bet you feel the same way. It may not happen to you often or you could be plagued by it. Either way, it pulls the rug out from under you and causes everything from head aches to stomach aches to ulcers to depression. When we get stuck in insecurity we feel very down and blue. There does not seem to be anything anyone can say to us that helps us feel better about ourselves. It seems like we are in a downward spiral and that we will never get out. What can we do?
Insecurity strikes people of all ages. I remember a girl in my elementary school who was so insecure she had a nervous little cough. Anytime someone would ask her a question there was that cough. She had it all the way through high school. I know other people who try to cover up their insecurity by being bold or macho. There are many ways we "act out" in order to keep people from knowing that we are feeling insecure. The problem with that is that most people see right through our guise and know it anyway. So rather than putting on an act to cover up our insecurity why not get a coach and work on overcoming it?
Often we think that if we could only learn this or if we had that skill we would not be insecure. That may have been where our insecurity started but the way to solve it is usually somewhere in our beliefs. With your coach you can explore your beliefs to find out what you are telling yourself that is keeping you insecure. One way to start figuring it out is to look at what you say when you start a sentence with "I should...", "I ought to..." or "I must..." Ask yourself, "Who says so?" You will find that there is a belief attached to the answer that you can carefully examine and challenge. Often your belief is based on an old incident or and assumption that probably is not even true anymore. Look for evidence that what you should, ought to or must do is valid and true. Is it something that you want to do or do you feel obligated in some way? What does all of that mean to you if you are to move forward?
Once you truly understand yourself, your beliefs and your self-talk you can decide to replace them with the truth and with things that will set you free instead of hold you back. If you are feeling stuck in insecurity now is the time to get a coach to help you figure these things out.